Herein lies the dilemma: We are a social society and most social occasions either revolve around food or it is an integral part of the festivities. If we are to take part in these goings-on, we either have to cave and go down the slippery food slide toward another cellulite deposit on our asses or we have to avoid them like we have the black plague. Not the best of alternatives, is it?
So, we convince ourselves that we can go to dinner/drinks/that party with all the friends and avoid the food. We can pass up that basket of enticing garlic bread, push away that pile of perfectly fried tortilla chips, turn our heads from that cheese-laden salad sopping with oily dressing. We can even say to ourselves, “I don’t need to eat… I’ll just go and get a lemon water; I’ll be fine. It’s fine. Really.” All the while, we’re staring around the table, practically foaming at the mouth with food envy. When friends ask if we’re sure that we don’t want to split an appetizer or dessert with them, we assure them that we do not, while we are secretly fighting the urge to smack them in the forehead with an overdone breadstick, grab their fettucini, and run into the nearest alcove to devour it in piggy-peace. Admit it. We’ve all contemplated carbohydrate assault to get our hands on those forbidden restaurant foods. Who wouldn’t be caught off-guard by a free wand-o-bread being flung at their face or chips thrown like ninja stars to distract them from the missing enchiladas?
What we need to do is realize that we will have these foods again. Yes, we want them. But we do not need those fries/cake/pasta/craptastic calorie extravaganzas. When I was on Weight Watchers before, I made a promise to myself. When I would go out to eat, I would get something mundane: salad, soup, a plain baked potato… Something safe and ordinary. And when I went home, that night or the next or sometime that week, I would treat myself to an at-home version of whatever had tempted me at the Palace-of-food-sin. This way, I control the portions, the calories, the ingredients, the nutrition. I get it just the way I want, at exactly the time I want and I didn’t have to sacrifice my social life to get it.
I still have to put this back into practice. Shepherd’s Pie & fried foods are my weaknesses and things I haven’t been able to successfully recreate. Once I get my weight loss to a consistent tempo, I will allow myself the freedom to have these favorites once in a blue moon. But I know they are triggers for me and I will have a hard time keeping to my plan if I fit these in now.
The (much danced around) point is: don’t deprive yourself of human interaction in favor of weight loss. You can have both, you just have to be able to navigate the temptations with grace & poise, and keep your fingers far away from the flingable free food